What to expect when you contact us?

Every contact to us is unique. Some people who reach out to us identify as survivors of abuse, some as abusive partners and some as concerned family members and friends seeking help for someone else. While every contact is specific to the individual, here are some phrases and questions that advocates use consistently to best help each you.

“Thanks for reaching out.”

You might feel anxious about contacting us, especially if you haven’t reached out for help before. We are completely confidential and anonymous, and our advocates have extensive training in issues related to domestic violence. Reaching out for help is the first step toward improving your situation, whatever that may be, and we are glad to be of service when someone takes this important step.

“Are you in a safe place to chat?”

It’s critical for your safety that you reach out when your partner is not around, whenever that is possible. If your partner does come home or walk in while you’re talking with an advocate, immediately disconnect the call. Because abusing relationships are based on power and control, an abusive partner is likely to react in anger as you take steps to regain control. Another way to stay safe is to remember to clear your browsing history after visiting our website.

“Why don’t you tell me a little bit about your situation?”

Before an advocate can begin helping you, they need to know your specific situation. This gives you an opportunity to bring up any concerns you’ve had about your relationship. Sometimes, giving a relationship timeline or explaining a recent altercation with your partner can give the advocate a better idea about what you’ve experienced.

“What have you considered doing at this point?”

You are the expert of your own situation. You reach out at all different times in your relationships, so advocates need to know what steps you’re ready to take before they can help you find resources. While an advocate won’t give explicit advice on what you should do next, you can talk about some options to make the best decision for yourself.

“How are you taking care of yourself?”

Self-care is important at any stage of a relationship. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is easy to forget about caring for yourself. Taking care of yourself may be as simple as eating a good breakfast to prepare for the day or getting enough sleep at night. Advocates often suggest writing in a journal, reading a good book or taking a bubble bath to ease your mind.

“Let’s brainstorm together.”

Whether you are deciding how to communicate better with your partner, planning on leaving the relationship or finding things that you can do to feel safe, there is always more than one right answer and an advocate can help you sort through the options to determine the best one for you.

“Is there anything else I can help you with?”

Maybe over the course of your conversation with an advocate you thought of another question, or maybe you feel more comfortable asking something you were scared to ask before. Advocates are always available to answer your questions about healthy relationships and how to handle an unhealthy or abusive relationship, so don’t hesitate to ask.

Contact us

If you need immediately help in a life threatening situation, dial 911 or call the Police Department at (+599)318 2333.


If you need help and want to speak to somebody urgently, you can call Unit Social Support at (+599) 318 2555 or Dirkje de Jong, unit manager Social Support at (+599) 318 4788.

You can also call Victim Support at (+599) 790 0426

I need help

I have doubts about what is happening to me. I want to discuss it with someone neutral.

I am worried about someone

I am a professional/relative/friend/neighbor, and I want to discuss a situation.

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